Proud Mama Support Services has partnered with other local businesses to bring you some awesome events, and opportunities to show your sustained support for our perinatal support group. What's better than making a fresh summer fruit pie, going to a yoga class, or making art for your home, all for a good cause?
August 4 - Making Summer Fruit Pies with Chef Scottie Love
Mid August- New Mood Meditation at Pacific Yew Yoga
September 9 - Mom's Art Night - Macrame Tapestry for Beginners at Diana Rose Studio
September 16 - Fall DIY Wood Sign Workshop with Blissful Signs and Designs LLC
October 20 - Morning Yoga at Pacific Yew Yoga
October 14 - Mom's Art Night at Diana Rose Studio
Our Third Annual Corvallis Climb Out of the Darkness on July 21, 2018 was a huge success. Every year we host this event, it gets bigger and better. However, our most important marker of success for the event is if we have created a space where moms and families can come once a year where they feel supported to mark--and celebrate--where they are on their journey with mental health struggles like postpartum depression, prenatal anxiety, OCD, and postpartum psychosis. We lump all of these mood struggles together under one label: Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders (PMADs).
A huge stigma around mental illness still remains in our culture, even more so when mental illness is coupled with pregnancy and/or caring for an infant. Because people are afraid to talk about it--or just don't know how to talk about it, lots of moms suffer from treatable illnesses for far too long, not knowing that what they are experiencing is beyond normal, is treatable, and will get better with support.
So, the act of gathering in a public place, under a bright sun, is an act of resistance against this stigma. It is a bold and brave move to show up to an event specifically focused on bringing maternal mental health out of the shadows and into the light. So, for that reason, we thank every person who came to the event on Saturday. You are why we climb.
A Look at How Far We've Come
The Climb Out of the Darkness is all about taking a moment to pause and look how far we've come-- in our journey as parents, as people who are working on making ourselves better and our world better for our children, at how much work we've put into our mental and emotional health over the last year, at how much progress we've made. Even if it's just that we got out of the house and made it to the park, that is progress worthy of celebration! We honor every person's journey. We look back so that we can look forward, acknowledging that we have indeed made progress, and we are, in fact, not alone.
In that spirit, let's take a look at how our local Climb Out of the Darkness is growing, and the project that it supports. The Climb Out of the Darkness has been organized locally for four years now, first by local mom Erin Martin, and then by Rachel Brinker starting in 2016. 2017 was the first year that local teams were able to apply as a community project and receive 75% of the funds they raise to support their local project. Proud Mama Support Services founder Rachel Brinker was aware that there was a need for a peer social support option in Corvallis, a support group focused on creating community and resilience for moms, dads, and partners dealing with mood and anxiety issues during pregnancy and the postpartum year. Proud Mama Support Services applied to Postpartum Support International (the non-profit that organizes the Climb Out of the Darkness since 2015) with our idea for a local support group, and our community project was approved. Our 2017 Climb Out of the Darkness brought 30 people to the event, and we raised $900, a huge success for a project that was just a vision at that point.
With the funds we received back from Postpartum Support International (PSI), we began hosting a facilitated perinatal support group at Restore Physical Therapy in October 2017. We began with one meeting every other Saturday. The group is free and open to anyone who wants to attend.
Where We Are Now
So far this year (2018), we have raised $3,100 for Postpartum Support International and our local support group. Our Climb Out of the Darkness brought more than 50 people to the event.
Nationally, the 2018 Climb Out of the Darkness has had over 5,000 participants and has raised over $170,000 for Postpartum Support International and its local community projects.
Our perinatal support group has directly served over forty families since October 2017. Find out more about the group and who we serve here. The group quickly grew beyond the capacity of the space with just one meeting time, so we added a second meeting time in April 2018. Both meeting times continue to be well attended, averaging 4-6 moms/parents per meeting. We are so glad to be able to provide this much needed service to the Corvallis community.
Our Cost to run Corvallis Perinatal Support Group: $5,128
Continuing Education and Training: $300
Facilitator Compensation (including payroll taxes): $3,328
Administrative Costs (marketing, printing, administrative support): $1,300
Group Supplies: $200
Meeting Space: Donated by Restore Physical Therapy (Thank you!)
The Perinatal Support Group is a community initiative of Proud Mama Support Services. We rely 100% on support from donors and sponsors to be able to run the support group and to offer it at no cost to participants. A tax deductible donation any time of the year to our local Climb Out of the Darkness team will help fund our initiative.
Additionally, we are partnering with local businesses to create events to bring you some awesome opportunities to show your sustained support for our support group. A portion of the profits from each of these events will be donated to our perinatal support group.
We also have created a line of apparel, 100% of the proceeds of which will go toward funding the support group. These products are only available for a very limited time!
Thank you to our sponsors, Samaritan Health Services and Restore Physical Therapy, for your generous support. And, thank you to all our donors!
Empower Haiti Together, Shine Midwifery, LLC, Diana Rose Studio, Becky Bricker LLC, Health Haven Studios, Jasmine Birthing Services, Naomi Hirsch Barefoot Books, MidValley Birthing Services, and all the individual donors who have made our Climb Out of the Darkness a success! See you next year!
We often place too much pressure on ourselves to do it all, to be the perfect parent/spouse all the time, to be and do what we think others expect of us. We begin to believe that are worth is tied to ALL THE THINGS we do or are. The truth is, this mindset ends up hurting us more than we know, especially when it comes to being a mom. Beating ourselves us about what we "should" be doing really does more harm than good, and anything that hurts us also ends up being not that great for our kids, either. Our "Quit Shoulding On Yourself" apparel is the perfect reminder for yourself and others that you are enough, you are worthy, you are doing a great job, whether or not you accomplish all your "shoulds."
These products will only be available until August 6, and then they are gone! So, do some early holiday shopping for your best friend, sister, aunt, mother, and get one for yourself as well. We all need this reminder.
100% of the proceeds will go to fund our Corvallis Perinatal Support Group.
Dealing with mood issues like depression, anxiety, OCD, etc. while pregnant or postpartum can feel beyond heavy sometimes. If you've had mood struggles or mental illness during pregnancy or postpartum, you get it. You know how dark, overwhelming, and isolating it can feel. It can be physically painful, and is certainly exhausting.
Those of us whose lives have been affected by perinatal mood and anxiety disorders (PMADs) know the loneliness and fear that come from struggling alone, fearing that we won’t make it through -- feeling alone, embarrassed, and overwhelmed. Coming together with others in our community at a local Climb Out of the Darkness -- coming together, supporting each other -- is part of our healing and recovery. People have been doing just that all summer long across the US and around the world. This Saturday, it's out turn to gather. Together we know that we are not alone, we are not broken, and we are stronger than we think. We are always able to take the next step in recovery. We are coming out of shame and into the light.
The Climb is a celebration of hope. You may be fighting deep in your own trenches or you may have already recovered, or you might be somewhere in the middle. You belong at the Climb, and you deserve to be celebrated.
Click here to watch a video of real moms, dads, and partners, sharing why they Climb Out of the Darkness.
Many of us began our parenting journey feeling broken, small, afraid and embarrassed, and then we came through -- through time, hard work, and recovery – to find healing, new strength, and connection with others. We are stronger and kinder to ourselves, we are inspired to become a beacon for the next person’s recovery. We want you all to know – we are here for you, we see you, we love you.
Corvallis Climb Out of the Darkness
Saturday, July 21 2018 10am-2pm
Walnut Barn at Martin Luther King, Jr. Park
4905 NW Walnut Blvd.
Pre-registration is encouraged but not required.
No donations or fundraising required to attend.
Family friendly-- Bring the kids!
10am: Welcome, Sign In, Tell Your Story Activities, Kid's Activities, Check out Community Resource Table
11am: Together We "Climb" Up Our Mountain
11:30am: Raffle Prize Winners Announced
11:45am-12:30pm Bring Your Own Picnic Lunch
12:30pm-2pm Support Group Celebration - How Far We've Come (open to all)
Stay and play, make connections, have fun!
"Please, no more onesies!" Ten reasons why onesies are the gift we love to give, but hate to receive, and what to do about it.
I know they are so cute and OMG, those sayings! Those graphics! The puns! The bunnies/elephants/Storm Troopers! It's so hard to pass them up in the store, but if you are shopping for a baby shower gift for a friend, please don't buy them a newborn onesie.
1. Lots of babies are born bigger than the newborn size of diapers and clothes anyway. The baby might not even fit in it. Like, not even fresh out of the womb.
2. Your friends have likely already received or bought more newborn onesies than they will ever actually need before their baby grows into the next size, if they fit into newborn sizes at all.
3. Your friends will likely feel obligated to take a photo of their baby in every piece of clothing they've been gifted, and the challenge of doing that before the baby gets too big, poops in it, or spits up all over it only adds to the stress of those early days of parenting. Trust us, we've seen this play out in real life with our clients, and it stresses them out.
4. Onesies are quite an impractical clothing choice during the newborn time. Newborns don't really like having clothing put on over their heads, and lots of parents are scared their little baby's chicken arms and will break as they try to wrangle them through the sleeves (they won't break, but try telling a new parent that).
5. Newborns have trouble regulating their body temperature, and skin-to-skin with a parent is one of the best places for them to be.
6. If they are not being held skin-to-skin, they are likely going to need more clothing than just a onesie, and no parent of a newborn really has the time to add pants to an outfit. Onesie + pants = more complicated diaper changes (when is the last time you tried getting a skinny, wiggly newborn leg into a pant leg?) You don't want your friends to be cursing your name at 3am, do you?
7. Newborns have an umbilical cord and clamp, not a belly button. It's an awkward thing to maneuver clothing around. Parents are already freaked out by this and worried about things rubbing on the stump. While sometimes it is helpful to have clothing on the baby to protect the cord, there are simpler options than a traditional onesie (like a baby kimono shirt, or a zip-up one-piece sleeper). Plus, air is what is needed for the stump to dry and fall off, so the less it is covered, the better.
8. If you find a onesie you just can't pass up, buy it in a bigger size. Trust us, we work with newborns everyday. They are very rarely dressed in a onesie. Onesies are a great choice when the baby starts to be mobile, so a onesie in 3-6 month size or larger is a great shower gift. Parents really appreciate getting larger size clothes for their babies. In reality, most babies (except premature babies) are out of newborn sizes by two weeks or less. Not exactly the gift that keeps on giving.
9. Your friends are going to need WAY more burp cloths and diapers than onesies. Lots of new parents have no idea that burp cloths are going to rule their lives for the next year (at least). If you are a seasoned parent, do them a solid, and give a gift they will use almost every moment of every day for the next few months.
And the #1 reason why not to buy your friend a onesie:
10. You can contribute to them having professional postpartum support by buying them an hour of postpartum doula services instead. Proud Mama Support Services has a stream-lined system for people to set up an online registry for their postpartum doula support. (Check out a sample of our customized registry pages below!) Gifting your loved ones postpartum doula support means you are giving the gifts of simplicity, rest, and peace of mind even when you can't be there to lend a hand. For new parents, what gift could make a greater impact than that?
Have your friend contact us today so we can set up a registry for her and her family!