Check out the handout below to learn more about how you can get the best support for your childbearing year, and why it matters.
Treat yourself well and hire a doula. Your baby deserves it!
YOU deserve it, too.
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Corvallis, Oregon has a great birth community. Oregon's laws support both home birth midwives and midwifery care in-hospital. The birth community state-wide is active, long-standing, and reaches across social and economic differences. We have a local doula network, a birth network, two birthing centers within an hour's drive, and another birthing center (hopefully) coming soon to Corvallis. "Who's your doula?" is a question pregnant women in this area are used to hearing. The full spectrum of childbirth education classes are accessible in town or just a short drive away. The hospital in Corvallis is used to women coming with a birth plan. There is a culture of support around pregnancy and birth.
After the baby is born, there are a ton of things to do with wee ones. We have mama-baby play groups almost every day of the week, and a plethora of possibilities for outdoor play with young babies and toddlers. You can even take your baby to an early childhood education class, starting from birth! There are so many things for babies in this town, I can't even come close to listing everything (but check this out).
So what's lacking in our birth community? Postpartum support for moms. Rachel Brinker has seen this gap for years, and in May she officially launched her business, Corvallis Proud Mama Support Services, to help address the need for in-home support for new moms and their families.
Unless she is under the care of a direct-entry midwife, a new mother typically won't see her healthcare provider for another six weeks after she leaves the hospital. She and her partner (if she has one) get the message that they are expected to handle life with a newborn on their own. If it gets to be too much, they might feel like it's because of a personal failing rather than a societal one. It's easy to see how these feelings of not being "good enough" or "strong enough" could set a new mom up for developing postpartum depression. But caring for a newborn baby as an isolated two- (or one-) parent unit is a relatively new idea, and one that does not best serve women, their partners, or their babies.
Breastfeeding support for struggling moms is available from lactation consultants and peer support groups like La Leche League, but that support is limited to online/phone communication or traveling to an office with a sore post-childbirth body and a newborn in tow. For some women, these hurdles are big enough that they decide to "make do" and not seek out help. Trying to "make do" without support for the breastfeeding mom and baby can increase a mom's stress and anxiety levels as she struggles to feed her baby, and can lead to a shorter duration of breastfeeding than she had originally hoped for.
Additionally, many women experience pelvic floor issues like incontinence and and abdominal weakness or instability after having a baby. These issues can easily be exacerbated by daily acts of mothering (lifting and carrying a baby around with less-than-ideal alignment, sitting a lot to feed and soothe a baby, babywearing, etc.) but they may not have been told by their providers how to protect their bodies and help it heal well from pregnancy and childbirth. Did you know that 53% of women have a diastasis recti immediately postpartum and 36% still have one at seven weeks postpartum? Do you know how to move safely and effectively if you do have a diastasis so that you don't make it worse?
And did you know that no, actually, you do not have to pee your pants every time you sneeze for the rest of your life? There are things you can do (Kegels are part of it, but not the whole answer). Many women retain the mindset from previous generations that incontinence is "just how it is after you've had a baby." Did you know there is just a thing as pelvic floor physical therapy and that in other developed countries, it's the standard of care that every woman leaves the hospital with a prescription for it?
Perhaps the biggest gap in our birth community is the fact that support groups for women who are experiencing postpartum depression, anxiety, and other mood disorders, have been inactive in Corvallis for quite a number of years. Even the support group in Albany has recently been cancelled.
All of this points to the general lack of postpartum support in our culture at large, not just in Corvallis. Traditional cultures all around the world honor the postpartum period as a unique and temporary time that requires intensive rest, shelter from the outside world, relief from day-to-day responsibilities, and support-both practical and emotional-from others who are knowledgable and experienced in what to expect during this time, But in contemporary U.S. culture, it is rare that the parents of a new baby will have that kind of support in place. Rather, the typical postpartum scenario is that relatives come to visit from out of town for a few days after the baby is born (possibly making more work for the parents rather than less), and after that...well, there's not much. Of course friends can be a great support if they've read up on how to be helpful to parents with a new baby. But sometimes it doesn't work out that way.
Recent research supports what women already know; having practical and emotional support postpartum, receiving adequate childcare education, and making maternal sleep a priority helps prevent postpartum depression and anxiety. Studies also confirm that when mothers feel supported by their partners, it's one of the best predictors for successful breastfeeding. Guess which professionals provide all this kind of support--helping partners know how to support the breastfeeding mom and baby, assisting with practical support around the home, being available on-site to answer questions about newborn care, and helping parents get more sleep? Postpartum doulas. We are experts in what's "normal and typical" in the postpartum period, for babies, for breastfeeding, for moms, for partners. We support you through the transition to having a new baby. Having that professional presence can make all the difference.
We have a culture of talking to pregnant women about All The Plans: where they plan to birth, how they plan to birth, who will be in the room, whether they'll be revealing the gender of the baby before the birth, what color they are painting the baby's room, whether they'll be using cloth or disposable diapers, which prenatal yoga class they're going to, and on and on. If we care about the mental health and wellness of new mothers as much as we care about pregnant women and new babies, we need to add another topic to those conversations.
"Who's your postpartum doula?"
Proud Mama Support Services is the only doula service in the Mid-Willamette Valley that focuses exclusively on postpartum support. This means we are not on call as a birth doula or midwife for other client's births. This means more availability for postpartum support when you need it.
Exciting things are happening here at Corvallis Proud Mama Support Services. We are putting our mission into action. We are committed not only to support parents in those early days with in-home care, but also to addressing the lack of support for postpartum issues such as postpartum body recovery and postpartum mood disorders. We are very pleased to announce that a WellMama postpartum support group will soon be starting again in Corvallis, with Rachel of Proud Mama Support Services and some fabulous mental health professionals at the helm.
And as we've written about before, Rachel will begin teaching a mom + babe (pre-mobile babies only) mamalates core recovery class for moms and pre-mobile babies at Live Well Studio on Thursdays from 2:30-3:45, starting on September 24. Click here to learn more about group core recovery classes as well as private mamalates sessions.
So the next time your friend, acquaintance, or patient announces she's pregnant, don't forget to ask her, "Who's your postpartum doula?" New parents need support in their homes, and that's what we provide. We are proud to be extending our amazing culture of support around birth to the postpartum period and working to make our birth community the very best it can be!
People are understandably a bit skittish at the thought of hiring a postpartum doula. Families are not necessarily at their best during the postpartum period. It's hard to find time to shower. Both parents are sleep deprived. The mother is sore, swollen, and weepy. Older siblings are reeling from their world being turned upside down. They're thinking, "WTF is going on around here? What happened to my world?" Everyone is hungry, tired, cranky, overwhelmed, and unsettled.
Why on earth would you want a stranger to come into your home to see you at your worst? Because we are trained to support you during the worst times, without judgement and without the baggage of complicated relationships outside of the postpartum time. You being at your worst is exactly why you want to hire us instead of relying on your friends and family in those moments. Drama is the last thing you need to be dealing with when you are caring for a newborn and recovering from childbirth.
On the other hand, there is a sweetness to the postpartum period that is so incredibly precious and fleeting, it should be savored carefully and slowly. Above all, families need to protect and shelter themselves from the outside world during their transition with the newest family member because those first moments will never come again, and they don't belong to anyone else but the parents and siblings of the newborn. Boundaries around your special time with your new baby can easily be overstepped by well-meaning relatives and friends who can't wait to get their loving hands on that baby and cuddle them endlessly. That's all well and good, unless it creates more work for you or interrupts the bonding process between you and your infant. Unfortunately, in the first few weeks, it usually does.
I recently received this review in my inbox, and I think it sums up very well what I do as a postpartum doula.
Thanks, Janel B.!
In many ways, a postpartum doula is like a family member who takes care of you when you are at your worst, but without all the emotional baggage and potential drama that comes with lifelong relationships. A doula fills a unique support role in your life for a short amount of time. We remain professional while providing compassionate judgement-free care.
Ready to see if I'll be a good fit for your family?
Join Proud Mama Support Services as we launch Mamalates mom+babe weekly group classes in Corvallis!
When: Thursdays, starting September 24, 2015
Where: Live Well Studio
Who: Women six weeks postpartum and beyond. Babies are welcome in class (pre-mobile babies only, please).
This class is designed for core recovery after childbirth, and can be beneficial and safe for issues such as c-section recovery, pelvic floor disorders, and abdominal separation (diastasis recti). Even if months or even years have passed since having a baby, mamalates can help bring you back into optimal alignment, increase flexibility and core stability, and bring more ease into your daily movements.
Come reclaim your core with us!