In this post, Sophie Grow , postpartum doula and perinatal peer support group facilitator, shares with us her thoughts on why creativity is so important for moms, and how to deal with some of the real challenges to getting time to craft! Check out our DIY Sign Making Party on September 16 and get your craft on!
$20 from each sign will be donated to Proud Mama Support Services to fund our perinatal support group.
I spend A LOT of time on Pinterest. It's like my own personalized magazine full of snarky needle point, parenting tools, and DIY home decor and design. Honestly, it's a way I cope with stress and a way I celebrate my moments of time alone.
However, having spent an equally large amount of time with mothers and fathers during pregnancy and the postpartum year, I know firsthand how negatively the Pinterest goblin of perfectionism can affect a person. I hear stories from parents who scroll through all the endless images of clever DIY projects of unattainable perfection only to feel usefless, self - critical, and not enough.
I am honored to visit many families as a postpartum doula, and almost EVERYONE is influenced by the unrealistic perfectionism of Pinterest/Instagram/Facebook. They see all the home projects they can't pursue because there are new demands elsewhere. There's no time to DIY a dreamcatcher from start to finish when baby has thrush and mom has healing to do. Laundry is just kind of getting done; it mostly lives on the couch, guest bed, or in the laundry basket.
Is Pinterest bad? I refuse to think so. It can be channeled for good!
An artistic project has the power to distract during a high-anxiety time. It provides enjoyment and relaxation. I have seen creativity and play help people cope and heal. Coming together with other craft y and creative people is incredibly inspiring and helps spark the inner "me" to keep daydreaming.
Why is it so hard to DIY a craft project in real life? Pinterest makes is look so easy!
To make something yourself, you need space, supplies, tools, set-up time, creative time, and clean-up time. A typical project might take three hours. As a mom, finding three solid hours of uninterrupted to creative time is about as possible as finding a unicorn. That's how rare it is. Most often I'm too tired to drag supplies out anyway, but if I did I'd be overwhelmed by interruptions and tiny "helping" hands. The Project would be archived with the name "Never Done #23."
For a project that costs $45 in materials, I typically spend $120. DIY means I buy full tubes of paint and a real wood burning tool so I can give my project that Pinterest effect that makes everyone say, "You made this?"
There are significant barriers to giving myself creative space to play as a mom, but I. WILL. NOT. GIVE. UP. That's why I love workshops like Sign-Making Workshops with Blissful Signs and Designs, LLC. and Mom's Art Night with Diana Rose Studio. Creativity in a community setting rocks! Plus, there is the added benefit of learning new skills and sharing supplies costs. I can pay a registration fee and know that I am actually saving money because if I bought all the supplies I needed on my own, it would cost even more. Plus, I wouldn't have access to an awesome teacher, or have the fun of making something in the company of other awesome crafters.
A few months ago I went to my first workshop with Blissful Signs and Designs, LLC.
This was a game changer because these workshops have:
1. Dozens of options in sign designs.
2. A giant selection of paints and stains to individualize my project.
3. An expert and comrades there to encourage me see the project to its end.
4. No set up, no trips to craft store, no tear down, and no interruptions from my kids.
5. Ashley was amazing! Even if I was nervous to screw things up, she was obviously the right expert to encourage me to finish. She made me feel far less overwhelmed and mostly EXCITED!
My inner Creative feels both inspired and a bit caged by this whole parenting gig. I'm not even sure what I like making anymore, but it's fun to try new things and explore. I dropped a lot to be a full-on mom. It's time to branch out and conquer a few fears while achieving a big WIN for my Pinterest-inspired home!
Register by September 7 and see you on September 16!
Signs by Blissful Signs and Designs, LLC.