People are understandably a bit skittish at the thought of hiring a postpartum doula. Families are not necessarily at their best during the postpartum period. It's hard to find time to shower. Both parents are sleep deprived. The mother is sore, swollen, and weepy. Older siblings are reeling from their world being turned upside down. They're thinking, "WTF is going on around here? What happened to my world?" Everyone is hungry, tired, cranky, overwhelmed, and unsettled.
Why on earth would you want a stranger to come into your home to see you at your worst? Because we are trained to support you during the worst times, without judgement and without the baggage of complicated relationships outside of the postpartum time. You being at your worst is exactly why you want to hire us instead of relying on your friends and family in those moments. Drama is the last thing you need to be dealing with when you are caring for a newborn and recovering from childbirth.
On the other hand, there is a sweetness to the postpartum period that is so incredibly precious and fleeting, it should be savored carefully and slowly. Above all, families need to protect and shelter themselves from the outside world during their transition with the newest family member because those first moments will never come again, and they don't belong to anyone else but the parents and siblings of the newborn. Boundaries around your special time with your new baby can easily be overstepped by well-meaning relatives and friends who can't wait to get their loving hands on that baby and cuddle them endlessly. That's all well and good, unless it creates more work for you or interrupts the bonding process between you and your infant. Unfortunately, in the first few weeks, it usually does.
I recently received this review in my inbox, and I think it sums up very well what I do as a postpartum doula.
Thanks, Janel B.!
In many ways, a postpartum doula is like a family member who takes care of you when you are at your worst, but without all the emotional baggage and potential drama that comes with lifelong relationships. A doula fills a unique support role in your life for a short amount of time. We remain professional while providing compassionate judgement-free care.
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